Mom Writes Essay About Benefits Of Co-Parenting; Internet Calls Her Selfish

Two parents walk with their child, each holding one of the child's hands

When a marriage goes sour, it can get tricky (and painful) when the kids get involved. Parents worry about keeping their little ones from the conflict of divorce, so for some, co-parenting and splitting the time of parenthood becomes the solution to a tough situation. And while the myth that half of marriages end in divorce isn’t quite true, co-parenting is far from an unusual response to the difficulties of divorce. Why, then, did one mom draw angry crowds of internet trolls when she wrote an essay about it?

When lawyer and writer Lara Bazelon recently penned an article for Slate about co-parenting’s positive effect on her motherhood, some praised her for her honesty about spending less time with her children. The vicious comments left after the story, though, demonstrated how much judgment a co-parenting mom who talks publicly about her experiences can face.

In “Confessions of a Part-Time Mom,” Bazelon writes about her arrangement with her ex-husband; each parent spends time with their children for five days, and then they switch off. For her, this is the perfect amount of time. Although she was originally devastated every time the children left to stay with their father, she says each successive transition felt less sad. At first, she says felt guilty for not feeling sadder, but the…

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