4 Signs You’re Burnt Out as a Mom
Burnt out (adj.): A state in which you are mentally unable to handle any more stress. A state in which your energy and mental resources are depleted.
We all have moments in time in which we feel stressed, but sometimes we don’t even realize how burnt out we are even if others around us can see that we are. Being a burnt-out mom is not only bad for you, but it’s also bad for the people around you. Unfortunately, mothers are socialized to ignore their needs; taking care of us as mothers is considered selfish. Worse still, asking for help is seen as somewhat weak.
This cultural attitude of the “strong mom” is hurtful to mothers and women. Being strong doesn’t mean working yourself to death until you’re exhausted and mentally spent. Instead, think of your mothering “power” as a business: when a CEO needs someone to take over a department, a good CEO finds a manager to take charge. That manager then finds workers and fills his or her staff up with people to share the workload.
Be a good CEO. Be a “strong mom.” Divide and conquer. Ask for help. Utilize your partner if you’ve got one and your family or friends based on their strengths. Rome was not built in a day. It takes a village to raise a child.
You are not Rome. You are not a village.
Strategize and take care of yourself or you’re no good for anyone!
Sign #1: Forgetting Everything
Sure, there’s preggo brain and mommy brain, but when you start forgetting things constantly, it’s a sign you’re burnt out.
When I had to move suddenly, I started forgetting things, which was so out of character for me. I also started losing things. It made sense, though: I lost my house and had to move suddenly, which was very stressful, and I was searching for a place on my own all among divorce proceedings. I was a burnt-out mom running on fumes. Realizing this allowed me to help myself.
Sign #2: Snapping at the Kids and Partner
Have you been a bit snappy lately? Maybe yelled at the kids and later on thought, “Hmm, there was no reason for me to yell. Why did I do that?”
Has your partner accused you of being moody or the B word?
You might very well be completely and utterly burnt out.
Sign #3: Constantly Tired
Does it seem as if your go-to response when people ask how you are is “tired”?
Do you long to crawl into your bed night after night and frequently wake up in the morning still feeling drained?
You, my friend, are burnt out. To a crisp!